If you do the opposite of anything I tell you, you are divorced

AS SALAMU ALAYKUM WA RAHMIT ALLAH WA BARAKATU BROTHER (PLEASE REPLY VIA E-MAIL),
Here is my situation; I got married about a year ago. Since I got married, I have only lived with my wife for 40 days. She lives in Palestine and I live in the U.S.A, now the problem at hand is my wife does not listen to what she is told, nor does she do what she is told to do, she only does the complete opposite of anything that she is told. Therefore, I did everything I could think of to make her change her ways but no effect. Therefore, one day I called her and told her that if she does the opposite of anything I tell her at all (ON PURPOSE), she is divorced. I have no proof of what she does if it is on purpose or not, and even if I ask her, she would deny it. So all I can say is I am almost positive that what she does IS ON PURPOSE. In general, I would tell her do things and she just does not listen. In addition, this is only scratching the surface of what is happening. So brother my question to you: Is she or is she not considered divorced. In either situation, what do you suggest I do?
JAZAKUM ALLAH KHAYR BROTHER
AS SALAMU ALAYKUM WA RAHMIT ALLAH WA BARAKATU
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
In the case referred to in the above-mentioned question, if you mentioned the phrase ‘ON PURPOSE’ in the sentence ‘IF YOU DO THE OPPOSITE OF ANYTHING I TELL YOU AT ALL’ the time you called her and told of the condition then Talaaq will take place when she does purposely  something opposite of what you have told her. The statement she gives concerning doing the thing on purpose or not will be accepted with an oath.  But if you did not mention the phrase ‘ON PURPOSE’ at the time when you told her of the condition then the Talaaq will take place when she does something opposite.  However, you can take her back to your Nikaah verbally or practically within waiting period in both the cases. If the period has passed and you did not take her back then both of you can remarry after mutual understanding.
والله اعلم بالصواب

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  1. i live in canada.my husband said if u will go to pakistan on your brothers marriage against my will then u will be divorced.but now if he is allowing me to go so in this case whether talaaq takes place or not?can u please answer my question as early as possible.
    ASSALAAMU ALAYKUM
    iF HE IS ALLOWING YOU THEN HOW CAN TALAAQ TAKE PLACE. tHE CONDITION WAS AGAINST MY WILL.

  2. a.o.a mufti sahab mein pehle bhi do dafa yahan apna question ker chuki hoon mein canada mein rehti hoon mere husband ne mujhe ye kaha tha ke agar tum mere bachon ko apne maan baap ke ghar le ker jao gi tu tumhein 3 talaaq ho jayein gi?alfaz exact mujhe bhi yaad nahin hein aur mere husband ko bhi nahin is surat mein ab agar mein apne maan baap ke ghar 5 saal ke baad jana chah rahi hoon aur mere husband apni merzi se mujhe ijaazat de ker bhaij dein tu hamein is soorat mein kia kerna hoo ga.mere wahan jane se mujhe talaaq ho jaye gi ya nahin.aap pls jitni jaldi ho saky mujhe is ka jawab dein aur ho sakey tu mere email per bhi answer send ker dein aap ki bahut shukerguzar hoon gi.
    Wa Alaykumus Salaam
    Jab shohar khud ijaazaat deraha he tu kiya baat he? Ghusse men agar kahaa ho tu jab ghussa thanda hota he tu shart khatm hojaate he.Jab ijaazat dete he tu aap jaa sakta he.

  3. Assalamoalaikum….
    meri pasand ki shaadi huwi thi aur theek 2 saal baad mairay husband ka behaviour bilkull badal gaya woh kehtay hain k tum sirf bayti ki wajah say is gher may hoo warna kal ki jati aj chali jao….. jana chaho to ja sakti hooo to kia talaq waqay hogaee?aur husband wife ka relation bhi aisa hai k jab mood huwa to sb theek warna kuch nahi may apne sare faraez bakhubi anjaam dayti hooon chahay woh gher k kaam hoo ya rishte nibhana…. larkiyun k saath affairs drink karna aur ghalat kaam kerna meri dosri jagah ghalat aur jhoti buraee kerna, na ek waqt ki namaz na juma na eid ki aur jab larae hoti hai to mujhe dhumki milty hai k bayti tum say cheen loonga ab mera sahara meri bayti hi hai may usko chor ker jana nahi chahti may chahti hoon sb theek hoja aaa…..aisy soorat may maire liya kia hukum hai? may namaz rozay ki pabandi karti hoon aur puri koshish kerti hoon achay kaam kerne ki…..mujhe kia kerna chahiyay……plz help me
    Wa alaykumus Salaam
    Aik baat yaad rakhna, ainda hone wali cheezen ke baari men sirf ALLAH ko ilm hai. Kisi bhi shaks ko yeh ilm nahin.
    Han halat ko durust karne ke liye aap ALLAH se duaa kare aur hatal imkaan yeh kohish kare ke talgh baat se parhaiz kare. Insha ALLAH haalaat theek hoga.

  4. ASLAMUALIKUM
    Zaad ne apny bewy se kha k ager to ……. k gher gae tu too muj se FARIGH he…….k gher ana jana zaad ke bewy ke shadeed majboore he.
    Rehnumae fermaen k
    (1)Zaad ke bewy ….. k ghar ay jay bhe ur tlaaq waqe na hu
    (2)ager tlaaq waqe hute he to kea tagdee-e-nekah hu ga???
    meharbani farma k kui asan se surat bean farmaen
    jazakumullah
    Wa alaykumus Salaam
    Zaad se maloom karna parega ke uswaqt kiya surat e hal thi. Kiya yah gusse men kahaa giya yaa nahin. Kiya irada tha? Yah maloom karne ke baad saheeh jawav diya jaskta hai.

    1. ASLAMUALIKUM
      Zaad ne ghusy me kha our talaq he ke eredy se kha k agar tu …… k ghar gae to tu muj se FARIGH hE
      WSALAM
      Wa alaykumus Salaam
      ager ghuse men kahaa ho aur talaaq dene ki dhamki di ho tu jab ghussa thanda hojaai woh apni ahliya ko phir ijazat de ke woh apne waalidain ke ghar jaasakti he. Yeh talaaq talaaq e fouri kahaa jaata he jab kisi baat par ghusa hokar kisi kaaam se mana kiya jaai tu jab ghussa khatm ho tu baat hi khatam hojaati he.

      1. ASLAMUALIKUM
        hazrat talaq hamesha ghuse me he de jate he pear me nhe.ghusee me tlaq de kr jb ghusa thanda hu jay to kea talaq nhee hu ge??????
        GHUOR FARMAEY K
        (1)Tm muj se FARIGH hu.kea ye TALAQ-E-KENAYA ka lafz nhe he????

        (2)Ye alfaz TALAQ-E-MUALAQ se taluq nhe rakhty?????

        I M SOORY TO SAYING THAT

        ya ap talaq k msael me mujtehadana andaze fikr rakhty hn

        SHAFQAT SE JWAB ENEYT FRMAEN
        Wa alaykumus Salaam
        Let me explain myself in the medium that there is no opportunity left. I am english speaking and have learnt urdu while studying in Pakistan.
        the issue here is that i asked you that is you were angry at your wife and as a punishment told her she cannot go to her parents home. Then you attached the condition that if she goes she will be faarigh” from you. This is talaaq muallaq and since said in a manner of punishment it becomes conditional of immediate going. If she delays for a while and then l;eaves she will bestill in nikah and the condition falls away. Ager aapko shak ho is jawab ke saheeh hone men tu phir hidaya. ya quduri,waghaira kisi bhio fiqh ki kitaab uthale aur masala dekhle.

  5. aslamo alikum
    molana sab mery shadi ko 9saal guzar gai han or 3 bachey bhi ham. mery wife akser ghagra karti rahti ha. ghar waley bhi boht tang han .mujh se kaha gia k tumhari dosri shadi krty han tm apni bivi ko talaq day do to main ne teen talaq dey den.kia ye talaq e muallaq ha. or ager main shadi se pehly raju kr lon to kia talaq khatm ho jai gi please rahnumai farmain..Wa alaykumus Salaam
    Teen talaaq dene ke baad ruju karna na mumkin jab tak biwi ke doosre shaadi an hojaai.

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