Dear Mufi saab
I would like to know what is the real importance of Valimah after the Nikah.I heard that it becomes compulsory to give a walimah when the couple have intercourse after nikah.
i have also heard that once the couple sleep together then atleast 10 people must be fed for valimah
can u please let me know in detail what is exactly the “maqsad” of giving a valimah, moreover i hv from ppl that if there is no intercourse b/w the couple then the valimah becomes haraam.is all ths true.
Whatever you have heard concerning Walimah is completely wrong. Walimah is neither <strong>Farz nor Wajib</strong>. It is Sunnah for the groom to invite relatives, friends and the poor for feast within the next two days after he has spent sometimes with the bride in privacy. The wedding feast organized after <strong>two days</strong> would not be termed as Walimah. It would be <strong>normal a feast </strong>according to the Hanfi School of thought.
The Maqsad of Walimah is expressing gratitude to Allaah, extending happiness amongst relatives, friends and the poor through a wedding feast and making the formal announcement of the Nikaah in the community.
However, moderation must be observed in holding the Walimah. It must be within one’s capability, free from extravagance and showing off, and the poor members of the community are invited. The Nabee of Allaah is reported to have said, “The worst food is the food of Walimah to which the rich are invited and the poor are neglected. (Al-Bukharee)