I’m living in the USA and I have been worried so much. What I have done in my past, I know its wrong but I’m asking Allah (swt) to forgive me and all the Muslims Inshallah. My story is I knew this girl from the high school. My family did ask her hand for me but her father was refusing. We use to talk and see each other for five years and nothing haram happened. But one day i had zena with her, and it kept happening for the next years. Didnt know what to do, her dad is still refusing and I didn’t like the situation. Because i pray and read Quran often and I knew what happened was wrong i always felt bad and lost. My family tried to ask her dad for her hand so many times, even the girl told her dad that she would like to get married to me, but still refusing. The girl left her house and came to me, didn’t know what to do.
I lied and told her dad that I did marry her. (Made it worst).So he accepted me when he heard that. So he asked from me to move and live with him. Didn’t know what to do but to accept it. Knowing I’m still not married to the girl was killing me. So went and got married none Islamic marriage. After some time i told her dad i need him to give us an Islamic marriage because it would be better without telling hime the truth. So he agreed and I was so happy to hear that. Now what happened is there were tow muslims witnesses, the Shiek,the girl dad, the girl and Me. what happened it was just signing the Islamic marriage paper.
Very sorry for this entire story.
Q1. Is my marriage with her now valid?
Q2. Me and her dad didn’t exchange any words but everything was on the paper that he signed, and the daughter, the shiek, the witnesses, and me? is ok doing the marriage like this?
Q3.I had zena with this girl and now we are married, IS IT OK?
Q4.Is there anything else i could do after me trying to fix what happened?
Jazakum Allah (swt) Khair
1)One of the conditions for the validity of Nikaah is the presence of two matured Muslim men or one man and two women, who can listen to the Ijaab (proposal) and Qubool (acceptance) of the couple. This condition wasn’t met in the case referred to the question. Since there wasn’t verbal Ijaab and Qubool from the couple that could be heard by the witnesses. Therefore, the Nikaah is not valid.
2)To sign the Nikaah Naamah is not necessary, but the presence of two matured Muslim men or one man and two women, who can listen to the Ijaab and Qubool of the couple, is necessary for the validity of Nikaah in Islam. (Shami: 2/319). All those who were present at the time of Nikaah must make Taubah for helping you commit sin by performing the Nikaah against the teachings of Islaam.
3)Better you get married to her. Because you are the one who spoiled her Iffah- chastity.
4)Refrain from the sin, regret over what you had committed, make firm commitment for not committing the same in future and turn towards Allaah سبحانه وتعالى with sincere repentance. This is the only way to fix what had happened.
والله اعلم بالصواب