I have served my husband for 10 yrs, 5 yrs ago he started drinking alcohol and I have supported him every possible way to help him stay away from haraam, still he would not quit and instead has started to abuse me a lot, calling me terrible things and dirty names.Sheikh I am a chaste muslimah with all my loyalties towards my husband,he is saying that he will not respect me ever he cannot keep a job and I am forced to work and look after the children aswell.He is mistreating me and I wish to part my ways with him.I follow the hanafi fiqh and do not understand the way of Talaaq, will you please guide me, does he need to say it three times or does it have to be on three different occasions, also am i committing gunaah by not persevering to his cruelty knowing that he is cruel to our children aswell.He wishes for us not to follow deen and hates the mosque.What should I do?
Give the Mahr back to your husband and request him to let you go. Allah Subhanahu says, “And if ye fear that they may not be able to keep the limits of Allah, in that case it is no sin for either of them if the woman ransom herself” (Suratul Baqarah2:229)
If he does not then approach the local Muslim council which consists an Aalim and file a case and follow the decision they issue.
And Allah knows best