I wanted to ask questions about a difficult sitution I came across, with a Muslim man I married, and a very difficutl situation I am in now. I truly need some advise on this matter, know my rights and also understand what is happening because I am completely confused by his actions, I am a convert, and maybe this is making my understanding even more difficult. Seeking help. Please if someone can write me, thank you.
Dear Sister in Islam,
The answer to your question is as follows:
May Allah سبحانه و تعالى help you in whatever situation you are! You did not mention the situation you came across. However, women hold a respected place in Islam. It places the responsibilities of women onto the shoulders of men. Men are constrained to earn a livelihood and to feed and clothe them. Besides, they have been instructed to approach them with compassion and kindness and prohibited from being harsh towards women. Allah سبحانه و تعالى declared women as a favour and reward for men. The Glorious Qur’aan says, “They are your garments and you are their garments…” (Suratul Baqarah 2 V: 187) Though men have been granted a position of leadership over women and declared the head of the family, are enjoined not to exercise this superiority without appropriate reason. They should know that Allah سبحانه و تعالى is a party between them and their wives. For, they join to marriage bond following the commands of Allah سبحانه و تعالى and become lawful for men. The protection and refuge of Allah سبحانه و تعالى is always available to them. If the husbands are cruel unto them and mistreat them, they will be guilty of breaching the trust they contracted with Allah سبحانه و تعالى. The Prophet of Islam صلى الله عليه وسلم is reported as having said, “O people! Fear Allah سبحانه و تعالى in regard to your wives. You have taken them in marriage under the protection of Allah سبحانه و تعالى …” (الصحيح المسلم)
To tolerate all the torture of husband is the sign of patience and obedience. Allah سبحانه و تعالى showers His particular blessing to those who are patiently perseveres. The Glorious Qur’aan says, “Verily, Allah سبحانه و تعالى is with those who are patiently persevere”. (Suratul Baqarah 2 V: 153) And a woman, who complies with the commands of Allah سبحانه و تعالى and obeys her husband, will enter paradise by whatever door she wishes. It is narrated on the authority of Anas رضى الله عنهthat the Apostle of Allah سبحانه و تعالى said, “If a woman performs the five daily Salaah, keeps the Sawm of Ramazan, guards her honour and obeys her husband will enter Heaven by whatever gate she likes”. (الحلية)
والله أعلم بالصواب وعلمه أتم