Marriage in the month of Muharram
Q. Does Islam approve the concept of some Muslims who do not get married in the month of Muharram considering the month unlucky because the martyrdom of Husain (RA) took place in the very month?
A. Islam always condemns such sort of notion. This is a baseless concept contrary to the teachings of Islam. Since Muharram is one the four sanctified months as stated in the Qur’an. Instead of consider Muharram unlucky it should be counted one of the merits of Husain (RA) that his martyrdom took place in the sanctified month.
Day of Ashurah
Q. Which day is called the ‘Day of Ashurah’?
A. 10th of Muharram—the fist month of Islamic calendar, is called the ‘Day of Ashurah’.
Sawm of Ashurah
Q. How many Sawm are to be observed on the ‘Day of Ashurah’?
A. Observing Sawm during the month of Muharram is more virtuous than other optional Sawm. The Prophet of Islam (SAWS) is reported as having said, “The best fasts
after the fasts of Ramadhan and are those of the month of Muharram.” But the ‘Day of Ashurah’ is the most blessed one amongst the other days of Muharram. Fasting on the day of ashurah was obligatory. But when the fasting of ramadahn was prescribed, the fast of ashruah turned into optional one. It is related on the authority of Aaish (RA) that the Quraish used to fast on the day of Ashurah in the pre-Islamic period, and Allah’s Apostle too, used to fast on that day. When he came to Madina, he fasted on that day and ordered others to fast as well. Later on when the fasting of of Ramadhan was prescribed, he gave up fasting on the day of ‘Ashurah’ and it became optional for one to fast on it or not. (Bukhari, Kibatussawm)
However, the Prophet (SAWS) used to fast on the ‘Day of Ashurah’ even after it became optional. Ibne Abbas (RA) reported that he never saw the Prophet (SAWS) seeking to fast on a day more (preferable to him) than this day, the day of Ashurah’, or this month, i.e. the month of Ramadhan. (Ibid) Ibne Abbass (RA) also narrated that when the Prophet (SAWS) fasted on the day of ashurah and asked the people to fast, they said, “ “O Messenger of Allah, this is a day respected by the Jews.” The Prophet (SAWS) said, “If I live next year, I shall also fast on the ninth day.” But by the time the following year came, the Prophet (SAWS) had passed away. (Muslim)
Therefore, it is a Prophetic Sunnah to fast on the day of ashurah as well as a day before or after that day—9-10 or 10-11 Maharram in order to differentiate the fasting of Muslims from that of Jews.
Chatting with opposite sex
Q. What is the ruling of Islamic Shariah regarding chatting with opposite sex through Internet?
A. Every part of body has its share in adultery as it has been stated in a Hadith narrated on the authority Abu Hurayrah (RA) that the Prophet of Islam (SAWS) said, “Allah Most High has written for the son of Adam his inevitable share of adultery, whether he is aware of it or not: The adultery of the eye is looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the adultery of the tongue is to utter (what it is unlawful to utter), and the inner-self wishes and longs for (adultery) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting to the temptation.” (Al-Bukhari, Al-Qadr)
Therefore, it is impermissible to communicate with opposite sex directly or through Internet, phone or letter without any extreme necessity.
Q. Is it permissible to use television only for watching news and discovery and national channels?
A. Though the television is still a controversial issue amongst Ulama, its evil effect on society, culture and religion are unquestionable. Generally this instrument is used for wrong and unlawful purposes. Thus, it causes more harms than benefits. Therefore, considering these aspects and all other evils pointed out by Ulama such as looking at non-Mahram, watching naked women and other similar sins and vices, it is highly recommended to avoid television fully and use least harmful means to stay abreast of the news and achieve valuable knowledge.
Wife works from home
Q. I find it very difficult to extend my hands even before my parents for money and other necessities. I can never ask my husband for money or what I need rather I would prefer to stay hungry and live without all that I need. Can I work from home to meet my own expenses?
A. Islam has divided the responsibly of man and woman. The husband is responsible for outdoor duties such as earning livelihoods and looking after political and social affairs when the wife is responsible for domestic duties such as looking after house affairs and nourishing children. The Prophet of Islam (SAWS) is reported as having said, “Surely! Every one of you is a guardian and responsible for his charges: The Imam (ruler) of the people is a guardian and responsible for his subjects; a man is the guardian for his family (household) and responsible for his subjects; a woman is the guardian for her husband’s home and of his children and is responsible for them; and the slave of a man is guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. Surely, every one of you is a guardian and responsible for his charges”. (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Hadith No. 252) Therefore, women are not dependent on men for their expenses. But the duties have been divided as per the ability. Thus, it is compulsory for your husband to provide you with what you need. But if you want to work from home in order to support your husband financially then you are permitted to do with the consent of your husband provided that the work is not in line with Islamic teachings and there is no possibility of mingling with strangers.
Shaving beard at the age of 27 years
Q. My 27 year-old brother has been suffering from chicken pox for four days. He has never let a bread grow. He dose intend to keep a beard but not at the moment especially with the wounds on his face and before appearing for his C.A. final exam. Can he shave off his slightly thick stubble?
A. This is the general consensus of all the four Imaams of the four schools of thought that shaving beards or shortening them less than one fist is strictly prohibited in Islam. Keeping beards and cutting moustaches are Wajib without any age limit. The Prophet of Islam (SAWS) is reported as having said, “Do the opposite of what the pagans do. Keep the beards and cut the moustaches short…” (Shaheeh Bukhari, Kitaabul Libaas)
Therefore, one who shaves beards and grows moustaches is committing a major sin, and he will earn the wrath of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala, if he has not regretted for what he had committed, and not turned to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala with sincere repentance.
Sucking the milk of wife
Q. What is the Islamic ruling on a husband who sucks the milk of his wife?
A. A husband may enjoy sucking gently at his wife’s breasts but he is not allowed to suck the milk in. Since it is unlawful to suck the milk of a woman after the period of breastfeeding. (Raddul Muhtar, Kitabur Radha’ah)
However, sucking the milk will not cause any harm to the marital relations. But this act is amongst the major sins and therefore, a husband is highly recommended not to suck his wife’s breasts when she is breastfeeding the child.
Looking at daughter with sexual desire
Q. A father looks at his daughter and feels unwillingly sexual warmness. Does it cause any harm to the marital relationship of parents?
A. The look referred to will not cause any Islamic harm to the conjugal relations of the parents. (Fatawa Al-Hindiyyah, Kitabunnikaah, Al-Muharramaat Bissihriyyah) Here it should be carried in mind that it is a sacred relationship between father and his daughter that permits them to have free contact with each other. A father naturally does not look at his daughter with sexual desire. This is the reason that Islamic Shariah does not ask her to observe Hijab in front of her father and other Mahareem. But if a father or a Mahram—one whom marriage is forbidden forever—crosses the limits set by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’alah or there is fear of Fitna—enticement on either side then she must observe Hijab as she does in front of non-Mahram, and the free contact would not be permissible.