Comments on: NIKAAH-MARRIAGE

By: zara

zara — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 07:07:08 +0000

i wanted to find out if it is possible to perform 2 nikkah ceremonies with 2 different maulanas. I am a sunni & i want to get married to a shia. My parents want to perform the nikkah with a sunni molvi and are not agreeing otherwise and his with a shia. Is it okay to make both sides happy and perform the nikka ceremony in front of a sunni molvi first and then in front of a shia molvi or vice versa.

The papers will be signed only once
Wa alaykumus salaam
Marriage to a shia is not permisible islamically as they are not regarded to be from islam.Whether you read it once or twice your nikaah will not be valid.

By: mariam

mariam — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 11:07:57 +0000

aoa. my problem is that i want to marry a boy. he is also willing to marry me. but his parents are not agree. he is tryin hard to make them agree. but still they are not willing. what should i do? if there is any dua or wazefa plz tell me
Wa alaykumus Salaam
In such an instance make istikhaarah and ask from ALLAH to grant you what is best.

By: khurrum abbass

khurrum abbass — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 18:54:38 +0000

assalam u alaikum:
i got married to a girl according to hanfi fiqa. there were few of my 7 friends and qari sabah. we performed nikkah secretly and registered it with nikkah registerar. nikkah registerar told me father concent is not reqiruired according to hanfi and paksitani law if girl is willing, she was 26 old when we officiated nikkah all the fromalities were completed according to the requirement. but we didn’t decalared it and was waiting for appropriate time. there was no forced nikkah from my side she her self asked me to do so.

Few days after she got maried without asking me or informing me nor taking divorce from me to another person according to her father wish.

now i asked her about this she replied when did you and me got married. although i had all my proofs but can u tell me. according to islam whose wife she is and what is my status am i still her husband. she is living with her second husband and on the same side she havn’t asked for divorce. she is just ignoring / lieing that we are not husband and wife. kindly guide
wa alaykumus Salaam
This all stems from the fact that sunnah method was disregarded in nikaah.Rasulullaah salalaahu alayhi wa sallam ordered us to announce the nikaah so that everyone os aware of it. You say you have proof? Is she a co signee to the documents in your hands? Since she denies it and you claim it you will have to proove her consent to the nikaah.It is very strange that a few days after the incident she would go and get married to another with full knowledge of her first marriage.It seems she took the mikaah as a joke .This requires arbitration from someone in pakistan.

By: Wahab

Wahab — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 20:49:11 +0000

Assalam o Alaikum
i happen to practice shia ismaili muslim sect but for the last 3 years I am not following that sect anymore and practicing sunnah. Now I want to marry a girl from sunni sect but her father refusing to let us get married and making the excuse that I don’t belong to a sunni parents. Kindly guide me in this regards

thank you
Wa alaykumus Salaam
As you are a muslim there is no real major issue that could be brought up as an excuse. The excuse they bring forward is based on the fact that they fear influence from your parents on future children. Try an give them assurance about the matter.

By: S.N

S.N — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 19:27:25 +0000

Assalam o Alaikum,
Sir, I want to get my nikah done in Khana Ka’aba by Imam e Ka’aba as I wish to do umrah right after my nikah with my husband and offer nafl there. I didn’t know whom to take guidance on this matter that is why i am asking you for help. kindly tell me how am i supposed to contact Imam e ka’aba on this regard? and what is the procedure? and can nikah be done in Khana Ka’aba? Kindly reply me soon. I really need help in this matter. JazakAllah
wa alaykumus Salaam
Try and contact the saudi government or embassy to find out ifthey perform nikaah in the haram which i highly doubt.

By: Anon

Anon — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 11:22:40 +0000

As Salaam u alaikum

I am having a relationship with a non muslim married man.He is acepting Islam and I will be his 2nd wife. Is the first marriage still valid? Does she have to be told? I wish to put my life back on the “straight Path” Insha Allah so tell me should I leave this relationship or make Nikaah? I cannot live with this guilt anymore and I wish to gain forgiveness from Allah SWT
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Firstly my duty is to inform you that this relationship is a grave sin in islam. Secondly it will only be permissible for marriage with him when he accepts islam.If he accepts islam then dawah will have to be given to his first wife who is not a muslim. She will be gven a period of pondering but if she refuses islam know that thye marriage between them then ceases to exist. As for the anouncement of your marriage it will be better to inform the spouse of it. Marriage in secret is discouraged in islam.

By: Miss.shireen

Miss.shireen — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 09:14:47 +0000

MOHTARAM JANAB,ASSALAMOALIKUM,
MARE UMAR 35 SAAL HAI,PAISAI KI LAIHAZ SAI DOCTOR HOUN.SHADDI NAHI HUEI.ACCHAI RISTA NAHI AATA. ISTEKHARAI MAI MARE SAHAADI MAI BAANDISH HAI.MAUGAH AAP SAI YA PUCNA HAI KAI BANDISH KHATAM KARNAI KA ISLAMI TARIKA KIA HAI,KIA SADQA O KAIRAT SAI KARNA SAI,YA KHATAM HO SAKTI HAI.KOE BHI AMAL ISLAMIC LAIHAZ SAI JO BANDISH TOOR DAI,WO BATA DAIN.MAI JOB KARTAI HOU BOHAT ZIADA WAZAIF NAHI PAR SAKTI IESLIYA,AASAN LAIKIN MUJARRAB AMAL BATA DAIN.AAP KIE DUWAN KI TALIB.JAZAKALLAH. -
DR.SHIREEN MANSOOR
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Yeh aap kisi aamil se jaakar pucchle. Ajeeb doctor hote huwe aisi baat ke men mareez hoonlekin zuyaadaa dawaahi nahin chahiye.

By: Alex

Alex — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 07:59:09 +0000

Assalamu Alaikum. I have a female friend of mine who was given a divorce over the phone from her husband. He told her she was divorced via phone call. Their marriage wasn’t registered in the American Courts. She never signed a marriage contract. Shiek did come in and asked her if she accepted the guy and she said yes but never signed anything. Since he didn’t mention talaq three times is she still married?? He physically and emotionally abused her and talked nasty about her to his friends and family. She hasn’t received any divorce papers and she does not know where he is. It’s been well over a year and she has not received anything. Can she force the divorce to get divorce papers so she can someday re-marry? She is 22 years old and still looks forward to marriage someday. Thank you very much.
Wa alaykumus salaam
One Salaam is sufficient for seperation and it takes place once the iddat(waiting period of three menses after the declaration of talaaq) has passed. There is no need od signing for the validity of nikaah. Also if the divorce was announced by the husband and the iddat has passed she can remarry.

By: sarah khalid

sarah khalid — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 22:02:56 +0000

AoA,Mein buht uljhan or pareshani ka shikar hon,im not a virgin due to sum medical problm,ye baat sirf mujhe ya mere ALLAH ko maloom hy or kisi ko nahi pata,mein akili hon,kuch bazurgo ne mil ker mera rishta teh ker dia hy,mein ye baat kisi se discuss nahi ker sakti,mein ALLAH se Dua kerti hon meri shadi khair o afiat ke sath ho jae,but i dont want ke ye baat shadi se pehle ya shadi ke baad mere husband ko pata chalay,plzzz guide me and help me regarding this problem.i’ll be thankful to u.
Thanks
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Your problem is not a big one. In shariah when we speak of a virgin we refer to one who has not had pre-marital sex. In your case you still fall in the category of being a virgin as the virginity was broken due to medical reasons. Therefore there should be no fear and you could proudly say,”i am a virgin”.

By: waqas rauf

waqas rauf — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 16:01:02 +0000

assalam u alakum

i am a muslim from pakistan and want to know that my cousin got married in the presence of two witness and mehr was decided and was written (registered) with the nikkah registerer. acceptnace and offer was also their but it was a secret marriage. due to the reason girl family was not agreeing.

they both started meeting as husband and wife and spents night together so many times. after six months his wife got married to another person due to family pressure and living with her second husband. and the previous husband didn’t divorced her nor she ask for it.

both my cousin and her wife are in contact and meet with each other but is hidden.

my cousin and her wife plannned that she will ask for divorce after some time from her second husband as if to show that she is the wife of second husband.

my question is my cousin and her wife are still husband and wife or not? and what is the status of her with second husband keeping in view that she is not divorced from the first husband. and if she had an intercourse or give birth to children from second husband what will be the status of the kids?
Wa alaykumus Salaam
The nikaah is valid according to the hanafi math hab but still it needsthe Wali’s permission.Another thing is that the proper procedure was not followed, therefore all these complications. Nikaah needs to be announced. No announcement took place.Secondly How did they allow the second nikaah? Did the girl give her consent or not? Did she deny the first nikaah or not? Was fasakh made by a qaadhi or not?
Remember a woman cannot have two husbands!!! If she thinks she can live and have relationsip on both sides then remember she is involved in zina and if it was an islamic country she would be stoned to death.
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