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Posted by: uddin | March 19, 2009
NIKAAH-MARRIAGE
Posted in home
aoa.mufi sahib m shoukat from pakistan.my question is abt tallaq.my question is that noe of my cousn said that he gives divorce to his wife in the presence of two witnesses.n after two years he produce one baby from that women whome he had given divorce.when that my cousn was asked tht u have give three divorce to ur wife with three sentences then how is that baby,so he replied that i have given divorse to her without intention.and he also sayy that i have signed wrongfully on stamp paper.so plz u tel me in the light of quran n hadith that what is the position of his relation to that women n what is the status of that baby wch was born after two years after giving divorce three sentences.i will b very thankful to u n will b waiting for ur answer.n thing plz tel me according to four school of thoughts.plz send me answer on my E mail address.
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
Intention is not necessary for the validity of Talaaq when it is given with the word of Talaaq or the word which is used for Talaaq in society. (Extracted from Raddul Mukhtaar Alaad-Durrill Mukhtaar, Kitaabuttalaaq)
It is the general consensus of the majority of Sahaabh and all the four Imaams of the four schools of thought that three Talaaq whether pronounced in one or different sittings is effective. (Extracted from Raddul Mukhtaar Alaad-Durrill Mukhtaar, Kitaabuttalaaq) The marital ties break completely and the couples become Ajnabi, stranger to each other after three Talaaq. But if they feel that they can live a splendid conjugal life and want to reunite, the wife after completing the Iddah should marry another man and have sexual intercourse with him. Thereafter, if the second husband dies or divorces her, she after completing the Iddah period can remarry her first husband. Allaah سبحانه وتعالى says, “And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband. Then, if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin on both of them that they reunite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. These are the limits of Allah, which He makes plain for the people who have knowledge.” (Suratul Baqarah 02:230)
Therefore, the three Talaaq given by the referred cousin in front of the witnesses by pronouncing words of Talaaq and singing with his free will on the stamp paper is effect and the marital ties between him and his wife have broken completely and they are Ajanbi to each other. It is Haraam for them to stay together without Shari’ee Halalah. The period they have been spending together and the relation they have with one another after the three Talaaq is illegal period and illicit relation and thus the child that is born during this period is illegitimate according the to the Islaamic law.
والله اعلم
By: shoukat taj on March 23, 2009
at 6:09 pm
Salam Mufti Sahib
mojooda zamanay k mutabik Larki ka HAQ MEHER kitna hona chahye,baaz log kehtay hain k MEHER jaiz hi nahi hota.to aap QURAN_O_SUUNAT ki roshni me tafseel se batain k Recent years k mutabik MEHER ki moojooda aur kam se kam aur ziada se ziada kitni HAD honi chahye.KAM se kam kitni had ho aur ziada se ziada kitni ho?AGR iss sawal ka jawab tafseel se dain to aap ki meherbani ho gi?
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
Allaah has commended to seek lawful women with the help of wealth and hence Meher is given as compensation for the enjoyment and benefit which has been derived from girls as Allaah says, “All others are lawful, provided you seek them (with a dowry) from your property, desiring chastity, not fornication. So with those among them whom you have enjoyed, give them their required due”. (Suratun-Nisaa 04:24)
Therefore, Meher is the right of woman and it can not be less than 10 Dirhams which is around 2 Tulah 7.5 Mashah. There is no limit to the maximum amount. A woman can demand as much as she wishes. But it is not good to stipulate a very high figure. However if a person gives an amount less than 10 Dirhams or its equivalent, he will have to pay the balance as well because Meher cannot be less than 10 Dirhams, according to the Hanafi School of thought. It is narrated on the authority of Seyyidina Jabir رضى الله عنهthat the Nabee of Allaahﷺ said, “Meher should not be less than ten Dirhams”. (Nasbur-Raayah Li Ahadithil-Hidayah, Babul Meher) It has also been reported that Seyyidinaa Ali رضى الله عنهdisliked the Meher being less than ten Dirhams. (Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaibah)
والله اعلم
By: SURRAIYA on March 27, 2009
at 8:18 am
dear mufti sb ,ASSALAMO ALAIKUM
a sunni muslim married with his wife’s brother’s daughter[niece]. His first wife is ailve and agree with the marriage to continue. The person also wants to continue the marrige.Please reply whether he can continue the marriage according to hanafi school of thought or any other imam permits such marriage.
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
As long as the marital bond is intact with wife or she is observing Iddaah, the husband is not permitted to get married to his wife’s niece. Imaam Muslim رحمه الله تعالىhas recorded in Saheeh Muslim on the authority of Sayyedinaa Abu Hurairahرضى الله تعالى عنه that the Nabee of Allaahﷺ forbade a person to combine in Nikaah a woman and her father’s sister and a woman and her mother’s sister…” (Muslim, Babu Tahreemil-Jam’ee Bainal-Mar’ah Wa ‘Ammatihaa)
Therefore, it is Haraam for the referred person to get married to his wife’s niece as long as the martial ties with his wife are intact or she is in Iddah period, and hence he must immediately break the relation with his wife’s niece as this relation is illegal according to the Islaamic Shariah.
والله اعلم
By: mohd ali on April 4, 2009
at 10:27 pm
sir what is the basic role of nikkah in ISLAM what is its orignal realituy!those 2 adult person who goes to court & get marry there i do not think so that there will be any molvi so how they get in nikkah they just registered themself lawfully married couple but what is ISLAMIC point of view& if a couple who love eachother they use to FUCK(ZANA)before there marrage & they both are extreamly serious witjh eachother in marring eachother but they commited that mistake so if they get marraied then this sin will be forbidden or not?
السلام عليكم
باسمه تعالى
One of the conditions for the validity of Nikaah is the presence of two matured Muslim men or one man and two women, who can listen to the Ijaab (proposal) and Qubool (acceptance) of the couple. If this condition is met when getting married in court then the Nikaah will be valid, though it is against the Sunnah method of performing Nikaah. but if the above-mentioned condition is not met, the Nikaah will be invalid. (Raddul Muhtaar Aladdurril Mukhtaar, KitabunniKaah)
The crime of Zinaa will not be wiped out by Nikaah without sincere repentance.
والله اعلم
By: FAIZ on April 8, 2009
at 7:26 am
Dear Respected Mufti Sahib,
Assalam o Alaikum Warahmatullah
My father is aging around 85 years with weak health and average mind. He often comes across different nightmares during sleep & sometimes starts shouting. One night he entered my wife’s room in my absence and touched her on one of her thighs, room lights were on at that time. With this touch my wife waked up in shock immediately and got separated from my father without any further contact or touch.
When I asked my father he said he was called in room by a woman who was seen by him in the room with 2 other women with 1 child in their lap. One of them indicated my father to touch my wife while she was sleeping. My father set aside my wife’s bed and touched her on her one thigh. Father is saying he didn’t know if it was his daughter-in-law or my wife. Neither he touched my wife considering his wife. He entered in my wife room in curiosity about those women in room which were seen by him.
At the time of touch, my wife was putting on cotton shalwar. She didn’t feel any Shahwat whereas I don’t know about my father Shahwat.
Since father is very aged so he initially was saying that he didn’t have any bad intention while touching her but after 3 months he said he might have had bad intention. He is also saying that he slightly touched my wife and it was not a full touch whereas my wife is claiming of full hand touch. Father is also saying he didn’t feel any strong sexual feelings while touching; he merely touched to know who this lady might be.
Please reply in the light of Shariah if this has proved the Hurmat-e-Musaharat??
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
The yardstick for Shahwah of an old and an impotent man is heart-beating with sexual desires or increment in it. “اما الشيخ والعنين فحدهما تحريك قلبه أو زيادته إن كان متحركا لا مجرد ميلان النفس فانه يوجد فيمن لا شهوة له أصلا كالشيخ الفاني” (در مختار, فصل فى المحرمات)
Therefore, if your father admits that his heart was beating or it began beating more if it was already beating when touching his daughter-in-law and you believe him, then Hurmat-e-Musaharah is proved. “ذكر الصدر الشهيد أنه فى القبلة يفتى ما بحرمة مالم يتيقن أنه بلا شهوة و فى المس والنظر لا, إلا أن يتيقى أنه بشهوة لأن الأصل فى التقبيل الشهوة بخلاف المس و النظر”" (ايضا)
Since Shahwah from one side is enough for the Hurmat-e-Musaharah to be proved. “وتكفى الشهوة من أحدهما” (” (ايضا)
But if he denies of heartbeat with sexual feelings and there is no Shar’ee witness to prove Shahwah when touching then Hurmat-e-Musaharah will not take place. “ولا تثبت بالنظر إلى سائر الأعضاء بشهوة ولا بمس سائر الأعضاء إلا عن شهوة بلا خلاف” (بدائع الصنائع,كتاب النكاح, فصل, ومنها أن تكون المرأة محللة) “خلاف هذا فإنه قال لو مس أو قبل, و قال لم أشته صدق إلا إذا كان المس على الفرج والتقبيل فى الفم”. (رد المحتار على الدر المختار, فصل فى المحرمات)
والله اعلم
By: Rana Haider on April 8, 2009
at 11:33 pm
Mufti Sahab, I want to ask that my maternal uncle (mamoo) died in accident last year. He has 2 small children and no body to take care of the family. I want to take full responsibility of his family. I want to ask that is it permissible to take his wife in my Nikkah after period of Idat?
السلام عليكم
باسمه تعالى
Mamani, maternal uncle’s wife is Ghair Mahramh and hence it is permitted for you take her in your Nikaah after the completion of Iddah period. “و أحل لكم ما وراء ذالكم” (سورة النساء)
والله اعلم
By: Sahir Khan on April 9, 2009
at 6:17 am
Dear Mufti sahib,
This is in reference to question asked on April 8, 2009 at 11:33 pm about Hurmat-e-Musaharat.
Last time when I asked my father about raise in his feelings while he touched his daughter in law (my wife), he said there was no raise in sexual feelings or beating.
Should I need to double check with him on this or just one time is enough.
Please reply.
السلام عليكم
باسمه تعالى
You do not have to ask him again and again. Once he denies of heartbeating or an increment in it and there is no Shar’ee witnesses, Hurmate Musaharaat will not take place. Since his admission of Shahwah or Shar’ee witnesses is necessary for Hurmate Musaharaat to be proved in the case referred to in the earlier post. (Al-Bahrur-Raaiq, Faslun Fil-Muharramaat Fin-Nikaah)
والله اعلم
By: Rana Haider on April 10, 2009
at 4:51 pm
Salam-ualaikum Wa rahmatullahi Wabarakatehu
What i wished to ask was, that does the nikkah b/w spouses break if the woman touches another man, intentionally or unintentionally? I would like to apply the question to my issue, which is that i recently had my nikkah done, and wish to pursue a degree in medicine. In medicine, i most obviously will be coming in touch with namehram men, during studying and even afterwards when i wish to work. Is that haram? Will that affect my nikkah in any way? Please do let me know
Walaikum-us-salam warahmatullahi wabarakatahu
Assalaamu alaykum and wa alaykumus salaam to your Salaam
The touching of a na mahram whehter male touchig female and viseversa with lust are both haram and a major sin. However by doing so it will not break your nikaah. As far as working as a doctor and touching the opposite sex then it is only to be done under necessity.It would be better to specialise in fields that work with women only. Nikaah is only invalidated by talaaq and its likes.
and ALLAH knows best.
By: Layla on April 27, 2009
at 3:04 am
aslam u alikum
mufti saab i want to know that a husband or wife can kiss parvites parts of there body is it haram or halal can u give a good fatwaa abt this masla
Wa alaykumus salaam wa Rahmatullaah
It seems that since the ummah has been exposed to th filth of the kuffar in their pornographic filth, these thought have crept in to the ummah. May Allah save us from such deeds and forgive us for our shortcomings.
Oral sex , as it is called, is totally forbidden in shariah. How can it be possible that the tomgue be polluted by something najas and be regarded as Halaal. The very same tongue which brings us into islaam by recital of kalimah and brings us reward by tilaawat of qur’aan,Remeer all forms of ecretion from the private parts are najs and dirty, filthy. Therefore totally HARAAAAAM.
By: khan on April 29, 2009
at 10:00 am
assalam alaikum mufti sahab, mujhe bataiye ki kya bhabi ki behen se nikah kar sakte ya nahin? Kya islam mein yeh cheez jayaz hai ya nahi?
Wa alaykumus salaam
Ji janab karsakte he.
koi mumaaniat nahin.
do bhai do bhen se bilkul shaadi karsakte hein.
Bhabi ki behen muharramaat men shaamil nahin.
By: salman on May 3, 2009
at 10:33 am
assalam alaikum mufti sahab, mujhe aur ek cheez poochna hai apko, mai meri bhabi ki behen ko bahut chahta hoon aur usse nikah karna chahta hoon, lekin uske family waale uska nikah bade ameer log se karna chah rahe hai filhaal to mai masters ki padhai karne ja raha hoon isiliye mujhe abhi koi job nahi hai aur main clearly pooch nahi sak raha hoon uske liye ab mai kya karoon? mujhe dar hai ke woh log uska nikah doosre se kardenge! aur main nahi chahta uska nikah koi doosre so ho kyun ki mai usse bahut mohabbat karta hoon. aap mujhe bataiye mai kya karron ab? mai bahut confused hoon isiliye mai padhai mein concentration nahi kar pa raha hoon.
Wa alaykumus salaam warahmatullaah
App jakaar unke waalidain s baat karle ya bhabhi se kehde ke woh apni taraf se baat kare.Larki ka bhi haq he is mamala men. agar woh intizaar karna chahti he tu theek. Mer khiyaal se mabaap ko etiraaz nahin hoga.Warna correspondence se course poora karle aur kaam shuroo karde
By: salman on May 5, 2009
at 9:49 pm
asalam u alikum
again mufti saab i want to know that if a person kiss his wife pravites parts or her kiss husband pravites parts of body is nikkah broken or not if a persons dont know about that please give answer in urdu in possible
Wa alaykumus salaam
No nikaah is not broken
By: khan on May 9, 2009
at 10:01 am
aslamulikum mufti sahib
i have problem in my life of sarat anzal(means early discharge) i can not do more then 2 min my life is disturb so please tell me about this matter what ido or have to prevent early anzal please help me out of this matter i will very thankful to you
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Consult a physician (doctor)
By: khan on May 24, 2009
at 2:14 pm
Assalaamu’Alaikum
Motaram Mofti SahaB, meir naam NAHEED NAZAR hai aur meri umer 40 yrs hai meri walda ka naam ZAIWA JAN hai kindly aap istahara kar k bataye k kya meri shadi hona possible ha aur kya ye BADAR UL ZAMAN walda;ZABAIDA say ho sakti ha
WASALAAM
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Janab ham doosron ke liye istikhaara nahin karte he aur men khud qaail nahin hoon ke kissi aur ke liye idtikhaara jaaiz he. Jab aapka hi masala he tu aapko khudhi istikhaara karne chahiye.
By: naheed on May 26, 2009
at 1:07 pm
Assaalmu’ Alaikum,
Motaram Mofti Sahad,main aik shaks ko pasand karit ho us ka naam BADAR UL ZAMAN ,us ki walda ka naam ZABAIDA ha aur meri naam NAHEED NAZAR mother’s name ZAIWA JAAN ha.
main nay Istahara keya k kya un ka haan say mere kie rishta aaye ga k nhi
Istahara k 1rst din main nay dream may daykha k main apne pet dog ko chain k sath lay kar ja rahe ho aur aik saaf road say main gozarti ho jo k aik way ha aur wo aik barhe say Govt bailding k gate ki taraf turn kar raha ha aur aaage aik aur wasa hi gate aur rasta ha aur ye dono rastay beautiful and greenry ha(actual mai mere ghar k samnay army complex ka aik gate ha aur us shaks ki street k samnay complex ka dosra gate ha)
2ND day main nay daikha ka paani ka pipe sahi tarikat se connect ho gaya ha aur paani tazi say flow kar raha ha.(Hakikat may b main dream walay din water k liye pipe laga rahi thi jo abhi mokammal nahi hoa tha aur raat ko main ne dream daikha
3rd day main ne daikha kmain aur meri mother dono aik Hospital type jagha hain aur waha aik adami mujhe aik blue colour taransparant band lafafa dayta ha jis k andar kuch document uar aik khaki lafafa nazar aa raha ha zur wo mujhe kehta ha aik aap shayad 11 baje ya 10 mint kam 11 bage aa kar aik lakhrhi ki aalmari k samnay ye file karna aur waha aik key chabi lay layna.main walda se kehti ho k abhi 11 honay may time ha ghar chaltay hain aut hum aik anjaan rastay per chaltay hai aur thak k ghar pohachtay ha k main waqt daikhti ho to khahti ho ye to time honay laga ha acha tha k hum hohi wait kar laytay aur hum jaldi wapis wotay ha aur wapis pohanch k may file aagay kar k aalmari kholti ho to key nahi hoti .pher main counter pe ja k kehti ho k may 11 am pe aaye ho aur waha key nhi to waha batha hoya shaks k face say u zahar hota ha k may hi late ho aur wo wall clock ki taraf daikhta ha waha 11 baj k 5 mint ha aur hans k mujh say file lay k key data ha.(meri walda ko lakwa hoa ha aur main 2 month kah un ka saath hospital phisio tharapi ka liye jaati thi)
Kindly is istahara ki Tabeer bata day aur main nay yeh istahara aap ki advise per kia hai
JAZAKAL ALLAH
WASALAAM
Wa alaykumus Salaam
istikhaara ke jawab sirf khwaab se nahin hoti he lekin dil ki kayfiyat hoti he ke dil us rishte se khoosh ya naaraaz he.
In tamaam khwabon bas din ki masroofiyat par dalaalat karte he.Aksar khwaab qabil e taabeer nahin.
By: naheed on June 3, 2009
at 12:35 pm
i begin with Salam
If I feel more sexual desire then can I do second marriage for this purpose as my wife can’t always allow me to have intercourse with her
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Allah has allowed four wives in marraige as long as one can be just and equal to them. Each wife has to be treated justfully and given proper nafaqah.ALLAh mentions in the holy Qur’aan
[4:3]
And if ye fear that ye will not deal fairly by the orphans, marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then one (only) or (the captives) that your right hands possess. Thus it is more likely that ye will not do injustice
By: Shami on June 3, 2009
at 9:01 pm
Assalam-o-Alikum ,
I want to ask what is the preferred method of doing Nikah in Masjid .
What I heard is
“First of all 2 gawah and 1 wakeel from bridal side will accompany the groom and his 2 gawah in the mosque ,and before departing home the signature will be taken from girl by her wakeel .
and Nikah will be announced by Qazi in the mosque .
Wa alaykumus Salaam
The normalmethod of the nikah ceremony in the masjid is as follows:-
1. The wali and twp witnesses(gawaah) will ask permission from the brise to perform her nikah dor an agreed amount for mehr.
2.When permission is granted on the specific day of the nikaah. both parties proceed to the masjid to have the nikaah khuttbah read.
3. Normally the qaadhi before performing the nikaah will seek the permission from the girl’s wali to perform it.
4. Khutbah is read and then the groom is asked whether he accepts the girl in his nikaah for the specified mahr.He accepts and the nikaah is completed after the mahr ishanded over to the wali, if it is to be paid immediately.
5. Normally the signature is done after completion of ceremony.
Another thing I heard that there is a requiremment that Qazi will send the wakeel and 2 Gawah (from bride side) giving them permission to go and ask girl and have signature .
After they come back to Qazi with Signature ,Groom will sign and khutba-e-nikah will be recited.
Please tell me the prescribed way as per Hanafi maslaq.
JAZAKUMULLAH
Muhammad
By: Muhammad on June 7, 2009
at 12:05 am
assalam alaikum mufti sahab, kindly let me know:
According to islam what qualities in a girl we must see for marrying her.
Wa alaykumus salaam
Rasulullaah salallaahu alayhi wasallam mentioned in a hadeeth that ” women are normally married for four reasons.
1. Her beauty
2. her wealth
3. her lineage
4. her deen (piety.
Rasulullaah saaws then said choose her deen…”(muslim)
Therefore one should firstly see if a girl will benefit his deen and be a means of aiding him towards piety and obidience to ALLAH. Thereafter if you find the other qualities it is a bonus.
By: syed on June 8, 2009
at 11:19 am
Assalam o Alikum, can a man marry such women whose calimed Banjh before marriage due to some medical disorder. if not then how such women can spend life alone in society. I asked this bcz i heard that concept behind marriage is only race increasing if u have other thing in ur mind then shadi haram. So in this case no baby birth possible and man and all public know before marriage. I know some prety girls and their parents already decided they should not marry them
Wa Alaykumus Salaam
Marriage is to prevent one from falling into haraam and also to enhance the existance of mankind(insaan). If a person knows that the woman is barren (baanj) and is willing to marry her then shariah does not forbid it. If they have desire for children they may always adopt. Therefore to say if the lady is barren and cannot have children makes nikaah haraam is wrong and erroneous. Having offspring is the matter off taqdeer and therefore we are not even sure that a fertile woman will definitely have children. Therefore to judge on that reason is wrong.
By: Muhammad Ahmad on June 10, 2009
at 9:02 pm
I am greatfull to you for this help.
By: Muhammad Ahmad on June 29, 2009
at 7:06 pm
AOA mufti saab main 2 saal phelay pakistan aya england say apnay ame abbu kay israar par.mayray aatay hi aunhoon nay mayri shaadi ki,shadi say phelay main apni mangaytar say milabhi baat bi ki.sab bazurgon ki marzi say sirf is kiyal say kay woow muj ko jan lay aur mujko wow samaj aajahay.mayri shadi ko abb 6 months hoo gay hain.shadi kay 2sray month hi mayri bewi nay mayray par do shartain rakeen kay ya tu mayra bacha hoo jahay ya main job karoon ge.mayri saas bhi job karti hai woowhi sab aus ko samjati hain.main aus ko is baat par samjaya kay jab tumko ghar main har zaroorat poori hai tu job kion karni hai kehti hai mayra tumharay ghar waloon say guzara nahee.baat rafa dafa hoo gaee.phir allah ki marzi say mayri bewi pregnet howi.main kisi ko nahee bataya kay main sab ki dawat karoon ga aur khush khabri doon ga…dawat say do din phelay mayri bewi nay yani jab woow 6 week pregnet thee ..aus din lens laynay ko keh rahee thee nazar kay tu main bola raat hai suba lay lain gay aus nay is baat par apnay pait par mukay maray aur bola lens lay kar do warna main bacha maar doon gee tooba tooba…main har tareeqay say samjaya aus ka kia kasoor yay zulm na karoo main lay doon ga suba par woow na samjee marti gaee phir main aus ko 2 tapar maray main zindagi main pheli dafa kisi par hath autaya…tu rook gaee aur boli mujko talaq doo ya muj ko qatal kar doo…main khamoshi iktayar ki aur jab dawat ki sab ko khush khabri dee aur baad main aus kay walid saab aur aus kay bhai ko bahir lay gaya aur itminan say sari baat bata dee aur yay bhi bataya kay main aus ko tapar bhi maray hain….
next day woow auski walida ko lay kar ahay aur bari mushkil say larki mintain kar kay aus ko samja kar chalay gay..mayri bewi nay muj say maafi mangee aur wada kia kabhi istara doobara nahee karay gee….maghar allah ko kuch aur manzoor tha..allah nay aus ki bad dua ausi ko laga dee aur pooray doo haftay baad mayri bewi ko pait main dard howi doctor kay pass gay tu woow bolay bacha doo haftay say barh nahee raha aus ka size 6 weeks ka hai….allah nay ausi din aus ka bacha barhana rook dia tha…..aur misscarriage hoo gaee in sab mamlat main mayray walid nay mujko toofa di kay main tum doonon ko umra par baij raha hoon taakay tumhara bacha sehat mand hoo allah tumhari roozi aur life main barakat bhar day….par jab bacha zaya howa mayri bewi aur karab hoo gaee…aik din main bazar gaya wapsi par main taqreeban 9 bajay aya late hoo gaya tha..tu aus nay mayri behan ko bola aghar main akili rehti tu main kabhi isko ghar main na gussnay dayti sari raat bahir sarta aur roota….kon biwi aisa kehti hai..phir aus nay raat ko muj say kaha tum apnay walid kay nookar hoo tumhari apni koi ehsiyat nahee tum apni abbu ki aungli pakar kar chaltay hoo…phir aus nay muj par larki ka ilzam lagaya jo mayri behan ki nand hai……main jab yay sab daika tu main ausko aus kay ghar chor aya aur aus ki walida ko sab bataya tu has kar kehti hain koi baat nahee kal ana main tumhari sula karwa doon gee….mainaus ky baad aus kay ghar nahee gaya na aunhoon nay ph kia abb taqreeban 20 din say woow waheen rehti hai.aik dafa na ph na msg aya itni bayrooki mayri biwi ki tarf say hai..phirmain kab say aus say naraz hoon woow aik dafa bhi yay nahe soochti mayra husband muj say naraz hai main kia kar sakti hoo kay aus ka gila door hoo aur han aik aur baat aus nay muj ko bohat galian bhi deen jab main kaheen gaya howa tha aus nay muj ko ullo ka paata ,suwar ki ulad aur pata nahee kia kia jab mayri behan nay suna tu aus ko rookh dia…yay baat mujko baad main pata lagee…phir jab taqreeban 15 din baad mayray walid aus kay walid say milay tu woow kehtay hain in ka aapas ka masla hai khud hal karain aur app loogon ko financial masla hai is waja say woow kehti hai kay larai howi…tu main bola kay baita tum job kar loo….jab main aunko haqeeqat batai tu kehtay hain muj ko 2 din doo main kuch karta hoon aun maa baiti nay mujko andayray main raka hai aur bohat bewaqoof hai auski maa…..abb bhi koi jawab nahee aya aur mayri bewi bewaqoofiyon par bewaqoofiyan kar rahee hai apni amme ki support say….mayray walid kehtay hain kay aus kay mamoo say milain gay aunko sab batain gay woow shahid kuch karhain…….mufti saab koi dua bataain aur aisa fatwa dain jo main sab nafarman bewiyon ko suna sakoon aur apni bewi ko bhi aur sari hadith aur quran ki rooshni main tafseel say kisi aur sawal ka hawala na dijiyay ga main appka bohat mashkoor hoon..par main bohat udas bhi hoon kay pata nahee mayra ghar kaisay basay ga….main 29 saal ka hoon mayri biwi 25 ki achi paree liki hai par akal kareeb say bhi nahee guzri..kay husband ki kaisay izat kartay hain auski amme bhi apnay husband ko bara sakht tareeqay say jawab dayti hain woowhi bayti bhi kar rahee hai par humary ghar main aisa nahee hoota.hum nay humesha apni amme ko abbu ki izzat kartay daika hai aur main bhi apni bewi ko bari izzat say raka…mujhay 20hazar ka nuksan howa umra kay visa aur ticket main…mayri bewi bari badqismat hai jo umra choor kar ghar baiti hai aur mayra bhi umra zaya karwaya main tu umra ki duas yaad karta raha baal bhi katwa diyay main apnay allah kay aagay bara sharminda hoon kay aus kay ghar nahee ja saka aur mayri bewi aus ki zimaydar hai aur mayra bacha bhi maar dia main kiss say gila kaaroon aur bewi ko bad dua bhi nahee daay sakhta…bayshak sab allah kay hath main hai main allah say rooz dua go hoota hoon kay allah main is sab kay laiq nahee tha tu mujay kion itni saza mili aur aghar saza day bhi dii hai tu abb is ko khatam kar day main itna mazboot nahee is sab ko bardasht karnay ka
khuda hafiz mufti saab ummed hai app jaldi jawab dain gay
Wa alaykumus Salaam
ALLAH aap ka masala hal karde aur sanr karne ka ajar de.
masala kaafi mushkil he lekin agar hosake dono family wale kisi tu haakim tay karle aur sulah ki khoshish hojaaiye. Aggar sulah mumkin na ho tu aakhiri marhala intiyaar karna parta he. Talaaq abghadul mubaahaat mense he. Agar sulah na mumkin tu behter yehi he ke talaaq de. Sunnat ke muttaabiq aik hi talaaq de aur biwi ko aazaad karde.
By: faisal saleem on June 11, 2009
at 6:10 pm
i am a sunni hanafi muslim. i want to marry an ismaili sect girl. she believes all the fundamentals of islam. Are they muslim. can i marry her. is it necessary convert her to sunni. please give answer with references as soon as possible. please email me answer to my email address. T
Thanks
ASSALAAMU ALAYKUM
tO UNDERSTAND THE KUFRIYA AQEDAH OF THE SHII ISMAILI ITNA ASHARI I WOULD ADVISE YOU TO FIRST READ THIS ARTICLE CLICK HERE
iT WOULD BE ADVISABLE TO ASK HER TO REVERT TO ISLAM (SUNNI), OTHERWISE IT COULD CAUSE ALOT OF COMPLICATIONS AND ALSO MARRAIGE WITH HER WILL NOT BE PERMISSIBLE.
By: Muhammad Imran on July 12, 2009
at 10:31 am
Asalamu Alaikum,
I had a question about istikhara’s and marriage. I wanted to know if an Istikhara comes okay for a potential future partner, does that mean that the person will be good for your future? But it doesn’t necessarily mean you get married to them right? Because my sister has had many proposals, and a lot of the Istikhara’s turned out good, but she never ended up getting married to them.
So does a good Istikhara just mean that the person will be good for you? And, doesn’t actually mean you have to get married to them right?
Also, if an Istikhara comes out bad, does it mean that the potential partner is a bad person? A bad istikhara can mean anything right? It doesn’t necessarily mean that the person is bad, does it? Because I know of someone who is a good person, and the istikhara came out negative for her, and now the other party thinks the girl is bad, and have a bad opinion of her? Whereas in reality she is a good girl. Isn’t it wrong to think that a person is bad, just because an istikhara was negative?
Thank you and hope to hear from you soon.
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Istikhaaraa is normally done when one has doubt over any matter of importance. The meaning of istikhaaraa actually refers to seeking aid to choose the better of the two.Normally in marriage it is a choice wether the partner is suitable or not. Not wether he is a good person or not.Therefore those who think in that manner are wrong and also will be responsible for tarnishing the homour of an innocent person.May ALLAH grant us understanding of right and wrong.
Also an important issue to recognise is the fact that a person might be suitable for one and not for another. Therefore istikhaaraa of two different people for the same person will differ from each other.
By: Hijabi on July 14, 2009
at 5:31 am
salam alaykum
If one did istikharah for a girl he wanted to marry, and after his istikharah things started to go bad with her. Does this hint about the istikharah is bad?
What if the person likes the girl, but doesn’t love her and she needs the guy to be emotionally fit with her. But the situation between them is getting tough. Is this a result of istikharah?
Wa alaykumus Salaam. Istikhaaraa means to seek advise when confused over an issue whether it is feasible or not.The answer to istikhaaraa is not basedon dreams but rather on ones feeling and inclination . If it feels bad the abstain from it and if good go for it. In your question it seems you are not happy with the situation. So do that which you feel it would be the best.
What if the person keeps seeing the girl in the dream, once it was her seeing you and she went down the stairs. Other was when you see her in a crowded place in your dreams, and you just kept walking by her and didn’t stop to talk.
Could all this be a result of istikharah? Should the person still try to pursue the girl?
By: Questioner on July 27, 2009
at 4:00 am
Nice web site and good replys
By: Nadim on August 1, 2009
at 10:02 am
Aslamalakum
i wana asak u some questions plz let me know if a husdand does not pay his wife any monthly kharcha since 10 years he does nt earn any thing now wen the girl is having a son who is three and half years us ka sara kharcha that girl iz doing as she iz doing job since he iz born father doesnt ive any money what to do can this relation go on between husband and wife moreover husband iz not caring not calling or talking only once in six months plz reply what can i do can answer on my id given
Wa alaykumus salaam
I dvise you to go to the local ulema and see what could be done in this matter. The would guide you to the necessary steps.
By: ruby on August 5, 2009
at 6:16 pm
aslamalakuma mufti sahab
plz ans my question and wana tell u som more i live in my parents house since 3 and half years and now my husband iz working in dubai but dosent send us even a single penny as my father asked him he said ka the money i earn r not iz not enough for me how can i send her his parents also never call me though they r my mami mamu plz reply me i hate my husband now and my parent dont want me to take divorce from him an waiting jaldi plz
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Make istikhaaraa about the matter and then discuss it with your family. That will be the best.
By: ruby on August 9, 2009
at 5:13 pm
assalamualikum mufti saheb… i m a married woman nd my question is dat i and my husband had intimate relations before marriage though we did not have intercourse whenever we met….. now after getting married we really feel bad and guilty for whatever we did and also ask Allah for forgiveness… but is there something else with which Allah will forgive us and not punish for our sin… could you please provide us with some good Dua or some other things which we should do which we are not aware of… your answer will really mean a lot.
Wa alaykumus Salaam.
Never ever become dispondaent of the mercy of ALLAH. HE forgives all sins. It is but our duty to beg him for forgiveness and sincerely make intention not to do the same sa
in.If the sin re occurs repeat you toubah and istighfaar. Make a habit of reading astaghfirullaah daily at least a 100 times.Also try and read the fadhaail sadaaat at meals so that all can hear the stories and take heed. Also try and read from the fadhaail amal and also the beheshti zewar.
By: sana on August 25, 2009
at 12:33 pm
Asalaam laikum mufti shahab kaise hu aap…
main phupu ke beti se mohabbat kartahun aur ussey shaadi karna chahatoun, per mere parents raazi nahi hai phupu ke beti ke liye mujhe. mujhe DUWA chahiye aur RAASTA jissey my apne parents ku raazi kara sakun…
Wa alaykumus Salaam
AAp do takaat namaz parhe aur du’aa e haajat parhhhle aur ALLAH se apne chahat sawaaal kare.
By: naser on August 30, 2009
at 5:22 am
Asalaam laikum mufti shahab kaise hu aap…
main phupu ke beti se mohabbat kartahun aur ussey shaadi karna chahatoun, per mere parents raazi nahi hai phupu ke beti ke liye mujhe. mujhe DUWA chahiye aur RAASTA jissey my apne parents ku raazi kara sakun…
mujhe duwa ki zarrurat hai mufti shab bhut hi…………..
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Maaf karna ke mujhe koi khaas du a us ke liye nahin jaantaa hoon.Tahajjud ke waqt uthkar ALLAH SE DUAA KIYA KARE , INSHA ALLAH ZAROOR US SE KHUCCH BEHTARI HOGI.
By: naser on August 31, 2009
at 12:34 pm
assalamalaikum
if a married men is to do anther marrige is it important for him to take permmisoin form his first wife or to inform her before marrige.
Wa alaykumus salaam
It is not necessary to take permission from the first wife but he should inform her of the second marraige.
By: saana on September 1, 2009
at 1:21 am
assalaamalykum
Main ek ladki se mohabbat karta hoon lekin uske maa baap aur mere maa baap issa razi nahi hai:aur mere pparents ne meri mangni kissi aur ke saath kardi aur us ladki ke parents ne bhi us ki mangni kahi aur kardi.toh mera usse abhi bhi mohabbat karna thik hai ya nahi.
Kya shaadi se phle ladke aur ladki ek dosre se mohabatki baatein karsakte hai ya aisa karne se gunah hoga
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Kisi na mahram larki se baat karna beghair kisi zaroorat ke haraam he aur muhabbat ki baaten bilkul ghalat aur baais e ghunna.aap us larki se ta alluq khatam karde.
By: imran on September 2, 2009
at 12:33 am
Assalam-o-aliukum
mera swal hai agar biwi hais se hai aur mujhe mubashrat ki hajat ho to kya biwi apne hath se mera anzal kar sakti hai kya jaiz hai ya nahi
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Jihaan jaaiz he.
By: Qasim Ali on September 11, 2009
at 8:25 am
Aslam-o-Alakum,
I have got married 5 years back and currently doing PhD in Computer Science from UET Lahore Pakistan. I am also doing a job over here. I am going through some domestic problems and wanna clear those in the light of Islam. Questions are:
1. My wife want to stay with me (including my little child) here at Lahore but my family including my parents and a elder brother and his family are living 500 Kms away from Lahore. My family is not in the favour of this due to some financial issues because I am the only one who has to fulfill their financial needs. If my family shifts here then I will be able to give them little amount or half of that I am giving them currently. Secondly, I am also not able to give due attention to my studies when the family will be here because at day time I will be doing job and after that I have to give time to the family. Let me guide according to the teaching of Islam as I have mentioned that my parents especially my father is not in the favour of shifting my own family to Lahore.
2. My wife normally visits her parents once in a week and stay there for 2 days in a week. Her parents live nearby our home (5 min walk). My parents do not like that and want that I should restrict her from this attitude but I do not wanna do that because how can I forbid her from her parents. This scenario is creating problem for me and my parents used to use harsh words with my wife but she remained shut because I have told her not to open her mouth in front of my parents. I am feeling guilty that whether I am doing wrong. Please guide me.
My wife is also my cousin and my parents also talk in bad tone about my in-laws as well in front of me and my wife.
I am suffering from intense mental pressure. Your early reply will be highly appreciated.
Wa alaykumus Salaam
May ALLAH make things easy for you and remove all worries.(Amen_
1. In Islam it is the duty of the husband to provide shelter , food and clothing for his wife and family. The need of having her privacy is a requisite in Islaam Therefore you are duty bound to give her her own quarters. not necessarily a own house but rather a section which she has in her control. Another important factor in Shariah that we all are very laxed about is the fact that you are leaving her alone in a house where your brother also resides. Islaamically this is nor allowed.Another issue is that she has her parents nearby and being alone will definitely cause her to go and visit her family.The way you are suffering mental stress i think she is in a greater difficulty than you. I would rather advise you for more peace that you do bring her to lahore and also provide for your family within your limitations.Your fear of interference in studies is a myth. I know of it as i was married while studying and truthfully i found easier to study with them being around. As for going against your father’s wishes , i think it is necessary to prevent fricyion between your family and your in-laws.
wallaahu a’lam bith thawaab.
By: zahoor on September 13, 2009
at 8:22 pm
assalam alaikum mufti sahab, i am 24 years old and i want to get married as soon as possible, currently i am studying i have one more year to end my studies. please advice me some dua so that i can get married as soon as i finish my studies.
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Rather spend your last few months on concentrating on your studies and ask for wazeefah thereafter.
By: syed on September 14, 2009
at 5:38 pm
aoa,
i am hell depressed these days as the person whom i wanted to marry … send his proposal but my parents rejected before meeting the guy saying they arent off our standard they are dark complexioned ….. also this guy is very much into religion i only chose him becoz of his good character n religious aspect….but no one considering this thing…. my parents wont marry me their n i dun wana maarry any one else…
please tell me what should i do….and help me … also i did istakhara n my heart is satisfied with the person i chose…
Wa alatkymys salaam
Try and discuss the issue with your parents and show them your determination of getting married to this individual. Of they do not listen try and get an elder of your family to speak on your behalf
By: sad on September 16, 2009
at 9:55 am
AOA
Mufti sb I want to know whether the following procedure of halala is correct;
A man marries a woman knowing that this marriage is for halala but at the time of nikah halala was not mentioned and after intercourse the woman demands talaaq and the man gives her 3 talaaqs..
Can woman hide her real name and use her nick name or it can be said that daughter of Mr. Asad agrees to this marriage..?
I also want to know that during intercourse if both man and woman agree, can woman wear nikab or hide her identity and whether man can use condom during intercourse..?
I know these are very shameful questions but I cant ask these questions to any aalim face 2 face because of embarrassment.. plz do reply me as early as possible… Regards
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Know well that to pre-plan a halaalah is sinful and wrong.This is a greart sin like prostituting oneself. If any such intention is there then abstain from it.
By: Noor on September 26, 2009
at 6:46 am
AOA
Mufti Sb thanx 4 ur reply… Actually Because of some misunderstanding divorce take place between us.. We cant live without each other.. Plz do reply all my questions.. If not possible to publish here then plz send me via e-mail… I will be very thankful to you for this kindness..
Wa alaykumus salaam
halaalaa is not permissible if pre arranged. If someone pre arranges it then they fall under the curse of ALLAH and HIS Rasool. Yes by doing it marriage will be permissible to first husband but one will have committed a sin. Furthermore it lies on your conscience whether you are willing to be cursed by ALLAH or not.
By: noor on September 28, 2009
at 10:33 am
Asslam o Alaikum Warahmatullah
If a person has given talaaq e bain to his wife and now he wants to reconcile via performing new Nikah. If he takes his father of age 85 & mother of age 65 & sister-in-law of age 35 as witnesses and he says Mai ne tumse nikah kia and my ex-wife says mai ne qabool kia.
Will Nikah be valid under such circumstances??
Thanks & Best Regards
wa Alaykumus Salaam
Since the wife has become an ajnabiyya to him after given talaaq baain, the need of two witnesses requires someone from her family as well.
By: Shami on September 30, 2009
at 10:10 pm
Mufti Sb can u send me ur e-mail id
Plz dnt mind I want 2 ask some more clarifications/information about my matter and I think it is better not to discuss here.. Plz guide me
jaamiahamidia@live.co.za
By: noor on October 1, 2009
at 9:28 am
asalamalaykum, i wanted to know the most proper method for salatul istikhara in getting married. i’ve heard many views on istikhara, some say dream is necessary, but i’ve heard that one gets guided to the decision. what exactly is involved in reaching to the final decision? is there only an istikhara dua and that’s it? i’m sort of a newcomer to islam, so i need some assistance in how to perform a correct istikhara, and how to decide for sure. jazakAllah khairun.
Wa alaykumus Salaam
The du’aa of istikhaaraa is one only and the method is th same.Istikhaaraa is made when one has dpubt about matters. If immediate istikhaaraa is required then
by reading
ALLAHUMMA KHIR LI WAKHTAR LI”
AND THE INCLINATION OF THE HEART IS ALL THAT IS REQUIRED.Such is the condition of all istikhaaraa . There is no need od any dreams.
By: *asiyah on October 2, 2009
at 12:43 am
aoa i sir mara sawaal ya ha ka kia saali sa zina karna par bivi haram ho jati ha aur kia choomna aur choona bhi zina ha plz meri email pr jawab da
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Kisi shaadi shud shaks agar zina kare tu islaamy mulk men islamy qaanoon ke mutaabiq rajm kiya jaaega. Matlab pathar penk kaer mara jaataa he.
rasulullaah salallaahu alayhi wa salaam ne hamme sakht waeed sunaahi biwi ki behn aur shohar ke baarie men Haaan usse nikaah nahin tithta lekin irtiqaab e ghunna he. Haath se choona ya choomna bhi zina he lekin uspar had nahin. Rasulullaah saaws ka irshaad hhe ” anhon ke zina nazar he.”
By: m asif on October 2, 2009
at 2:09 pm
asalam alaikum, what is your opinion on women who wait for the perfect man to come along, becasue in reailty there is no such thing. a lot of women feel scared and do not just want to choose just anyone, and sometimes feel some of the marriage proposals from the brothers, are not good enough. Should women lower their standards a little? some people think that if we keep waitng, we’ll get the perfect man, but then women start getting old. shouldn’t women just trust in Allah, because Allah is the one who puts love and mercy between the spouses, so shoulnd’t we just leave that part to Allah? what is your advice?
Wa alaykumus Salaam
Unfortunately the cinema and movies have corrupted our thoughts and have caused us to desire the happy ending which is a myth. Wishful thinking has become our measuring instrument in our lives which one should realize that for it to materialise is impossible. Reality is what we have to come in grips with and try to look at things in a proper manner. The most important factor that we need in marriage is compatibility, both paries should see if their likes and dislikes are similar and also realise that marriage is a give and take situation. One cannot expect to get things happening in accordance to one party’s will. Yes look at character and the person’s religious ferver.
By: *sister on October 7, 2009
at 9:48 pm
mufti sahib salaam arz ha.mera sawal ka jawab da pease sawal ya ha ka kia saali k sath zina karnay sa bivi haram ho jati ha ya nikkah toot jata ha kia
ASSALAAMU ALAYKUM
SAALI SE ZINA HARAAM HE AUR JISNE YEH GHUNA KA IRTIQAB KIYA USPAR HAD LAAZMI HE AUR WOH RAJM HE. hAD JAARI KARNE KE LIYE ISLAMIY HUKUMAT KI ZAROORAT HE.US KE GHAIR MOUJOODGI MEN US SHAKS KO TAUBAH MAANGNA LAZMI HE.aGAR ISLAAMI HUKUMAT HOTA TU YEH SAWAL PAIDA BHI NA HOTA ISLIYE US SHAKS KE LIYE LOUT KI SAZA HE. LEKIN HAAI AFSOS ISLAMI HUKUMAT NAHIN. hAAN USSE BIWI HARAAM NAHIN HOTI HELEKIN SHARM KI BAAT HE.
By: zarb e abbas on October 8, 2009
at 3:32 pm
AOA muftisab this question is in regard to my friend who got married recently without his parenst knowledge in a proper islamic way (he had 1 male n 2 female witnesses n a maulana who performed the nikah) then he registered his marraige in the court of law. There were some genuine problems n he had to take this steps…… After a few days his n the girls parents were made aware of the situatoin n they agreed for their relationship….. but since they didnt want anyone to know about it (they r very society concious) they got the guy n the gal to do nikkah in the mosque again in front of everybody (society in short). now my friend heard from someone that if u marry the same gal twice then there is no nikkah…. my friend has asked me to ask u that what is the islamic ruling about this n is the marriage valid……..
wA ALAYKUMUS SALAAM
When nikaah is made then how can nikaah break nikah. The second nikah is null and void but has no effect on the first nikaah.
By: saad on October 8, 2009
at 3:39 pm
mashallah! i saw all of the questions are answered here. I also have a question..do i just ask here or is there any other procedure??
Yes you may ask here
By: Shafaq on October 8, 2009
at 8:47 pm
s vedio chating with wife is allowed as chat with each other face to face like to see parts of the body of each other.
ASSALAAMU ALAYKUM
VIDEO CHAT WITH ONE’S WIFE IS PERMISSIBLE AS SHE IS YOUR WIFE. tHE VIEWING IS PERMISSIBLE AS IT IS LIVE.
By: suraj khan on October 12, 2009
at 12:41 pm
ASSALAMU ALAIKUM WARAHMATULLAH,
Is it permissible to get the Nikah done at Masjide Nabawi (saw) ? If it is possible then how to start the process (whom to contact) ?
I will be very pleased if you send me the answer on my following mail ids:
obaid.mohd@yahoo.com, obaid_mohd@rediff.com
JAZAAK ALLAH,
THANK YOU.]
WA ALAYKUMUS SALAAM
By: Mohd Obadi Mohiuddin on October 12, 2009
at 5:02 pm
What should be the maximum time frame between Nikkah and marraige i.e., can the bride stay with her parents after Nikkah and for what time period, does the Nikkah stand void or not if there is no intercourse between the spouses?
ASSALAAMU ALAYKUM
It is permissible for a a wife to spend time at her parents residence. The period is based on agreement between the spouses.The nikaah does not become void due to the lapsing of time.
By: Shabir Shafkat on October 13, 2009
at 12:40 pm
Assalamu Alaikum,
i want to marry with one of my cousin, should i pray from allah to get married with me.is it allowed in islam to pray for someone to whom we want to marry.
Wa alaykumus Salaam
It is permissible to request from ALLAH to get you married to someone , however it be understood that we may wish something that is not good for us. The best way is to request if he or she is good for me then grant us marriage to each other.
By: Azhar Khan, Mumbai on October 16, 2009
at 1:32 pm
Assalam o Alaikum
Is brother of father-in-law (susar) Mahram or Ghair Mahram? Please state.
Wa alaykumusSalam
He is ghair mahram
By: Sakina on October 16, 2009
at 7:13 pm
I am living in US and since I got married four years ago, I never lived wihout my wife but this time I allowed her to visit her parents after we have a newborn baby so she is gone for few months but now I realize that I cannot resist my love with her and trying to get her back soon which is not possible for atleaat next 2 months so we do phone calls everyday and she offers me to masturbate while she is on phone but I was reading Fatwa on one the website http://www.islamqa.com/ur/ref/4807 and found that I cannot use my hands, I tried but never succeed. I have the same feeling all the time and she keeps in my mind.
i need your adivse please how can I ejaculate because without it, otherwise I have desire all the time which scared me a lot.
ASSALAAMU ALAYKUM
radulullaah salalaahu alayji wa sallam jas given us a solution for such occurances. Fast and eat less. So for these two monhts or so try and fast at least the two masnoon fasts of Monday and thursday.Try and eat a lot of yogurt as wellas cucumber.
By: Muzaffar on October 19, 2009
at 12:18 pm
Assalamu Alai Kum, I am a 36 Yrs Divorced man, I had troubled married life, in compatability with wife and eventually I divorced my Ex Wife. After Divorce, I had to endure lot of trouble from my Ex Wife and her parents. Allah’s grace, I could over come all hurdles with Allah’s belssing, patience and Dua of my mother and family. Now I am planning to get married again. I saw a Divorcee through a marriage broker, every one at home liked and so as me. Before taking any decision, I wanted take the consent of Allah by reading istiqara Salat, I could not get answer in first two days, but on third night I saw a dream in which I saw Storm coming strongly, I went inside a room and my uncle is asking me to hold the some rod/pipe tightly(My Uncle(Mamu) helps us a lot), then the storm passed. When I came out I could see open ground, then I was holding big cow in my hand flying in skies, then came down. A person came a asked me that cow belongs to me and I said it is mine and you can check with my friend Etc. I got up but was releived and calm. It was 3:15AM, I read Tahajjud Salat and requested allah to show me simple dream to make my decision easy. I plan to read again. But i want to know the intrepetation of my dream. I liked the girl, so as my family members. But I am just cautiious to make decision due to previous bad experience. Kindly help with this dream intrepetation. Allah Hafiz
Wa alaykumus Salaam
The dream refes to being blessed and recievinggreat benefit in this year. It seems to refer to the maariage being a source of benefit. the storm was the turmoil of the divorce, which has subsided.
By: N. Khan on October 27, 2009
at 9:32 am
asalaam alaykum
If a brother intends to go feesebilillaah and is planning on marrying soon. Should he tell the girl of his intentions? What if she does not want him to go for the fear of being a widow?
Is not death written for us and life will not extend or shorten whether we are in a battlefield or at home?
WA ALAYKUMUS SALAAM
FIRSTLY HOW CAN SHE FEAR BEING A WIDOW BEFORE MARRIAGE?
if you are not married then unnecessary contact is also forbidden. How is the person going to tell her?
By: Muhammad on October 29, 2009
at 8:22 am
question??
if a husband stay abroad for long time(3-4 years) will it breaks the nikaah?
Assalaamu alaykum
please begin all correspondence with Salaam.
Answer!!!
No it will not break nikaah but he will be breaking the rights of his spouse.
By: sohailkhan on November 5, 2009
at 8:17 am