AS SALAMU ALAYKUM WA RAHMIT ALLAH WA BARAKATU BROTHER (PLEASE REPLY VIA E-MAIL),
Here is my situation; I got married about a year ago. Since I got married, I have only lived with my wife for 40 days. She lives in Palestine and I live in the U.S.A, now the problem at hand is my wife does not listen to what she is told, nor does she do what she is told to do, she only does the complete opposite of anything that she is told. Therefore, I did everything I could think of to make her change her ways but no effect. Therefore, one day I called her and told her that if she does the opposite of anything I tell her at all (ON PURPOSE), she is divorced. I have no proof of what she does if it is on purpose or not, and even if I ask her, she would deny it. So all I can say is I am almost positive that what she does IS ON PURPOSE. In general, I would tell her do things and she just does not listen. In addition, this is only scratching the surface of what is happening. So brother my question to you: Is she or is she not considered divorced. In either situation, what do you suggest I do?
JAZAKUM ALLAH KHAYR BROTHER
AS SALAMU ALAYKUM WA RAHMIT ALLAH WA BARAKATU
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
In the case referred to in the above-mentioned question, if you mentioned the phrase ‘ON PURPOSE’ in the sentence ‘IF YOU DO THE OPPOSITE OF ANYTHING I TELL YOU AT ALL’ the time you called her and told of the condition then Talaaq will take place when she does purposely  something opposite of what you have told her. The statement she gives concerning doing the thing on purpose or not will be accepted with an oath.  But if you did not mention the phrase ‘ON PURPOSE’ at the time when you told her of the condition then the Talaaq will take place when she does something opposite.  However, you can take her back to your Nikaah verbally or practically within waiting period in both the cases. If the period has passed and you did not take her back then both of you can remarry after mutual understanding.
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