Assalam o Alaikum;
I was married in 1989. Our first child (son) was born after a year and a daughter was born in another 4 years. Between these two, I discovered that my wife had a totally different personality, behaviour and social life than mine. She started fighting on trivial matters and on many occasions wanted me to divorce her. During above period and in following years she created many situations where she would physically and verbally abuse me and during the heat of arguments asked me to divorce her right away. Though I refrained on many times but on certain occasions I did say the WORD (divorce). We did not have a physical relation for almost 10 years although she lives in my house with children. Please clarify in the light of Islamic law, whether a divorce has occurred or not. If I can recall correctly, I would have said the WORD divorce on at least 7 different occasions over the past 10 years. Thank you and Jazakallah.
وعليكم السلام
باسمه تعالى
Dear Brother in Islaam, when your wife does not want to stay with you then why are you forcing her to live with you? Let her live her own life as she wishes. As regard to the case referred to the above-mentioned question, the marital ties have broken completely and you are Ajnabi-stranger to each other. Therefore, it is not allowed for you to stay in one house especially when both are young and free to meet each other.
والله اعلم